A deep subject for my first blog but here it is.
After five years your name should be cleared right? No. I am experiencing the burn of a former "secret admirer ". So you are truthful and tell them you don't want to date the but they become resentful and say wrong things about you. Well I am a victim of this. I have started clearing my name and I have called "clear my name.com. Lets see if this works. As a word of mind, don't do that to people. Its wrong on so many ways. Bullying leads to pain.
More to come.
Lora Dillenkoffer
Dear Lora Dillenkoffer,
ReplyDeleteI have many thoughts about your post and would like to reply with them all, however, I am limited to 4,096 characters for each post, so, here they go:
This is the first time I have really had any experience with this. It amazes me that something someone could write on a post 5 years ago still shows up so consistently. I wonder if that individual had any idea of the consequences of his actions at the time. Not that I am standing up for him (far from it), but it truly speaks to the environment that our children will be growing up in. With social media technology, it is so simple and commonplace to post. On Facebook, we post our thoughts on a regular basis without concern for the future and what happens to these thoughts. However, they are still there years down the road. An embarrassing photo of someone we may post as a joke, an inside joke that we may post without thinking about that person's grandmother reading it, a hurtful comment made on-line in some blog during a brief argument: all of these have lasting consequences. Today's teenagers don't have the insight to realize that these things are so permanent and how that may affect individuals years from now.
I am also amazed that companies don't clear out their post histories after a certain amount of time. Who really cares what some teenager thought was important 5 years ago? Why are these menial things we post on a daily basis so important that we have to keep record of them for years. Do I really care what I had for breakfast on a random Tuesday in 2009? At the time, I may have been really excited about it, but I didn't need to keep permanent record of it. But, the post itself was only 12 bytes of information hosted on a server somewhere with who knows how many terabytes of space. We keep it because we can, not because we should. In some instances - we shouldn't. Internet bullying has become rampant in our society.
ReplyDeleteSo, what needs to be done? If legislation is written that increases liability, we infringe upon the first amendment and individuals' freedom of speech. If we do nothing, we continue to host a breeding ground for slander, defamation, and libel with no accountability. I think one of the most important things we can do as individuals now is to become knowledgeable and aware of the consequences, rights, and responsibilities of participating in the arena of social media technology. We need to be vigilant when we see acts that are not acceptable. We need to stay away from sites that are there solely to spread gossip and harm. As members of this community, we vote with our "clicks" and "hits". If we visit a website (even if by accident or just voyeurism to see what it's about and not partake in it), we increase that sites power, longevity, and ability to sell advertisements. We also need to work on just being good to each other: taking the time to think about the consequences of our posts and comments on the other. Therefore, I applaud you Lora for speaking up about this and focusing your blog on this topic to start with. It is an interesting life and I am proud to be a part of yours.
ReplyDeleteKirk Nelson